Being agreeable – is it working negatively for you?!

I stumbled upon the below video of all present Jordan Peterson waxing poetically about agreeableness; how excessive agreeableness can be harmful, how a greater percentage of men are highly disagreeable whereas more women are highly agreeable, and how the most highly agreeable among us often can’t articulate what we want because we often don’t know what we want. I found myself nibbling the edges of my proverbial conscience: am I too agreeable? Perhaps. The very fact that I was asking the question of myself may indicate excessive agreeableness, as uncertainty is one of the signs of a too-agreeable person. But then I did what any thriving millennial woman would do and Googled: “Am I too agreeable?” only to have the worldwide web spoon feed me sundry quizzes to take. My results came back: moderately agreeable, and I was slightly relieved. There’s a small but significant difference in getting along well with others and letting others walk all over you, which is apparently what excessively agreeable people are apt to do.

Jordan Peterson – Agreeable vs. Disagreeable People

Agreeableness is one of the five personality traits of the Big Five personality theory. A person with a high level of agreeableness is usually warm, friendly, and tactful. They generally have an optimistic view of human nature and get along well with others. A person who scores low on agreeableness may put their own interests above those of others. They tend to be distant, unfriendly, and uncooperative.

Big Five personality theory was formed by several sets of researchers who defined five broad traits based on empirical, data-driven research. The five big traits are: openness, conscientiousness, extroversion, agreeableness, and neuroticism. A brief breakdown of each appears below.

Reshaped from: Sarah Rose

“The Big Five Inventory:

Extraversion. Are you sociable or retiring? Fun-loving or reserved?

Agreeableness. Are you trusting or suspicious? Helpful or uncooperative?

Conscientiousness. Are you organized or disorganized? Self-disciplined or weak-willed?

Emotional stability. Are you worried or calm? Insecure or secure?

Openness to new experiences. Are you imaginative or down to earth? Independent or conforming?”